What Is Love?

I thought about including this in the previous post, but I feel that love being the most valuable experience we can ever have is more my own subjective opinion rather than what applies to everyone. Anyways, here it goes…

So what is love? I have thought about this a lot, but the concept of love seems to be just as elusive to me now as it was in the beginning. The Greeks had several words for all the various definitions of love, just to begin to describe its complexity. Personally, I believe it’s the strongest of all emotions, so strong that it defies logic. Even when we know we shouldn’t do something or that it doesn’t make sense, we will ignore our reasoning for love. It’s so strong it can even defy the ultimate instinct of all living beings—that of self-preservation, and we see it every time parents care for their kids, or when someone sacrifices for their partner. We all naturally crave it and pursue it on our own ways because whether we realize it or not, love colors and uplifts our lives long after everything else crumbles to dust. No matter if it is with your friends, your family, or your partner, I believe love is what makes life meaningful. On the other hand, life without love is like eating plain bread day after day without PB or J. It’s boring, and it gets tiring real fast.

Again, I cannot quantify or validate the meaning of love—all of these are merely my thoughts on this most elusive of subjects—but in my opinion, nothing quite compares to that heart-quickening sensation you feel when you see your beloved. Maybe that will change if I ever have kids, who knows. To end this post, I included a poem my best friend wrote about love, who does a far better job describing it than I ever will.


What is love?

Is it that 3rd grade crush you had to conceal?

Is it something that will appeal

To the masses? To the secret admirer

Who hides behind glasses?

Is it something you wear like a medal or medallion?

Is it a primal need like that of a stallion?

Or is it a pedal that fell from a flower?

Is it the exposure of weaknesses or the yearning for power?

Is it a wound so deep, it will never heal?

What is love? But furthermore is it real?


2 thoughts on “What Is Love?

  1. Appreciate your post here as well as the last one you did. I resonate the most with your concept of sacrificial love that parents have for their children, which I believe is the foundation to any meaningful relationship. To love is to sacrifice! We can sacrifice our time, resources, pride, etc. And many times that sacrifice may go unnoticed, but if we are constantly keeping track of when we get loved in return, then love becomes more transactional.

    Just a couple other thoughts….I think it’s no coincidence that love is the number one selling topic of all time in songs and in movies. When we don’t feel loved, something is not right just like a fish out of water. That’s why you see girls with abusive dads grow up and get with abusive boyfriends…..it is the closest thing they felt to being “loved”.

    My proposed solution is to go out and find a way to give love in as many ways and to as many people without any regard to how much you get loved in return. In life, what you get is what you give, right? Since everyone is craving for that love, we can go out and GIVE someone that special feeling. Just knowing that we made them feel loved is enough to fulfill you in return.


    • Thanks for the comment! I agree, it’s definitely no coincidence. Love and connection are necessary to be truly happy, but they can also be expressed in unhealthy ways. I’m confident though that if we sincerely pursue it, we will not regret it.

      There does seem to be something unique in helping others. Almost every book out there on how to be happy and fulfilled talks about contributing to the community or something greater than yourself. Tuesdays with Morrie does a beautiful job communicating this message, and it’s a read I highly recommend to anyone who thinks about life, love, and happiness.


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