INTRODUCTION

As you can see from the title, this blog is about honesty, empathy, and connection. Why? Because I believe these things are essential to be truly happy, and if even one reader learns something that leads him or her to live a more fulfilling life, then this blog will have been worthwhile indeed.

Originally I was planning to call the blog “E is for Empathy.” I thought it was a catchy name, and it stuck in my head. But since I plan on catering to more of an adult audience and don’t expect many primary schoolers to read my blog—though if you are, that’s awesome!—I went with “Honesty, Empathy, Connection.”

OK, here we go.

Human beings are different from every other animal on this planet (don’t worry, I’m going somewhere with this). Our intelligence and problem-solving ability is unrivaled on Earth, but what truly sets us apart is our sense of empathy—our ability to share and understand the feelings of another. Back in ancient times, it led us to form familial and tribal units to increase our chances of survival. In fact our sense of community is so ingrained in our survival instinct that it defines and shapes every person to this day. For many of us who have our basic needs met and are free to think beyond our immediate survival, we all seek that sense of family, still crave that connection with others. Which is a problem in today’s society.

Because while there are many benefits to technology, such as freedom from fear of starvation and most sicknesses, there exist some not-so-trivial downsides as well. We can connect with people across the globe at the touch of a button, yet we are also more impersonal and isolated in many ways. How often do we text someone rather than call because it’s easier and faster? Do you know all of your Facebook friends? We meet so many people on a daily basis that we have few opportunities to interact on a deeper level with each person. Many people find themselves developing a façade, an outer shell that presents a certain image while protecting the core of who we are from external judgement. The point is, we often become disconnected from others and—more importantly—from ourselves. We tend to lose that honesty that’s so important to trusting others and grounding ourselves in reality, and without empathy and honesty, our deep sense of connection to others suffers.

So I believe empathy is our path to leading a more fulfilling life. We were programmed to be social creatures. Indeed we need companionship to be mentally and spiritually healthy. More than that, we all seek that ultimate relationship, that form of connection so strong it’s what makes life worth living: we all seek love. Because that is who we are. Honesty, with others and ourselves, connects us to reality and allows us to communicate with each other. Open communication leads to empathy. Empathy leads to understanding, and understanding others and being understood, deeply and fully, leads us to the connection we so crave.

And that’s what this blog will be about. First, I plan on writing about the three categories (Honesty, Empathy, and Connection) in a general sense, and then I will post about more specific topics that I think are relevant or interesting. If you have constructive criticism or would like me to write about a certain subject, please comment below; I would love to read it. And lastly, thank you for reading this far! I hope this enriches your life =]

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6 thoughts on “INTRODUCTION

  1. You say that honesty connects us to reality. What do you mean by this? I assume you mean, honesty with ourselves. But how do we know we are being honest with ourselves when we are the ones creating that sense of certainty that we are right, and could just as easily do so in the event that we are wrong. Basically, every assessment we make of reality, or what is honest, or right or wrong, is born from our perspective, which is always going to be biased. So, I’m interested in your writing and would like to read more, but am confused on this point, which seems to be central to the rest of your ideas.

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    • Hey thanks for the comment. Yes I meant ‘honesty with ourselves’, which is coincidentally what I planned for my next post. I’ve thought about this a lot, and I also think our perspective shapes the ‘reality’ we see, which can be both good and bad. This reality is different from what everyone else sees; but what connects us all, ultimately, is what is real. You cannot deny the truth forever (‘you’ being a general term here). By ignoring a problem instead of finding out the truth of the situation, what is real vs. what is in your mind, the issue will becomes more and more painful, and eventually reality will come around and smack you in the face, telling you to wake up. It hurts, but everyone has their own crucibles to walk through. And I think the best way for people to come out for the better is to be honest with themselves. I really can’t say if this is the ‘truth’ of the world, but it is my reality that I want to share with others.

      That was a longer response than I intended, but I really appreciate the question! Hope you find something through all of this

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      • But isn’t our reality determined by our perception? You’re saying, you know you have been honest with yourself when after a substantial amount of time, the truth hasn’t come around to smack you in the face yet (which is an interesting implication that truth = pain haha), but isn’t it possible that some of us live with lifelong deceptions? Because we think something is true, we interpret events through those lenses, and as long as we refuse to accept anything to the contrary, we maintain our illusion for as long as we want (even for as long as we live). And isn’t it also safe to say that “not giving up” can take you far in life – if an 8 year old decides that he or she is “special” compared to others, and clings to that thought at whatever cost, interpreting the way he or she is treated and the events of life to affirm his belief, couldn’t the illusion effectively be maintained for a lifetime simply by using a little creativity to come up with reasons why negative things happen? And isn’t it also possible that this child could grow up believing that he or she is, indeed, honest with his or herself?

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  2. Honestly (joke), I can’t say that reality will “always” wake you up. There are certainly people who pass from this world still believing in things others would say are obviously wrong. But I do think it is a general truth that your contradictions eventually catch up to you, and you will have a decision to make. For example, say somebody makes a habit of blaming others whenever things go wrong. Eventually, they will find themselves in a situation where it is no longer easy to make excuses, and they will have to (a) face the truth and work on a solution or (b) commit to believing in something even more outrageous so that they can maintain the illusion in their reality. It’s confusing, I know: honesty connects you to reality, but your reality is shaped by your perceptions. So why care about being honest? Well if you scare away everyone around you, then you will be alone. You can’t deny that. You can delude yourself, make up excuses, and say it’s the world that’s against you, but there will always be consequences that you can’t escape. The only thing you can change is how you deal with them: honestly or not.

    Believing in yourself and what you can do will certainly change things. If you believe yourself to be happy, you will be happier. If you think life sucks, you’ll get depressed. I just happen to believe being honest let’s you see things more clearly and gives you more control over how you want your life to go.. so be truthful about your shortcomings so that you can work on them, but don’t put a limit on yourself? Chase after your dreams! (if this doesn’t make any sense, I’m tired haha)

    The funny thing is, I can’t say for sure if this is an absolute truth of the world. This current perception of mine is the accumulation of all my experiences so far mixed with a fair amount of reflection, and this is simply what I believe to be true. For now. I haven’t lived my whole life, and my views will probably change. But in my reality today, I say honesty is the best move.

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