As you can see from the title, this blog is about honesty, empathy, and connection. Why? Because I believe these things are essential to be truly happy, and if even one reader learns something that leads him or her to live a more fulfilling life, then this blog will have been worthwhile indeed.
Originally I was planning to call the blog “E is for Empathy.” I thought it was a catchy name, and it stuck in my head. But since I plan on catering to more of an adult audience and don’t expect many primary schoolers to read my blog—though if you are, that’s awesome!—I went with “Honesty, Empathy, Connection.”
OK, here we go.
Human beings are different from every other animal on this planet (don’t worry, I’m going somewhere with this). Our intelligence and problem-solving ability is unrivaled on Earth, but what truly sets us apart is our sense of empathy—our ability to share and understand the feelings of another. Back in ancient times, it led us to form familial and tribal units to increase our chances of survival. In fact our sense of community is so ingrained in our survival instinct that it defines and shapes every person to this day. For many of us who have our basic needs met and are free to think beyond our immediate survival, we all seek that sense of family, still crave that connection with others. Which is a problem in today’s society.
Because while there are many benefits to technology, such as freedom from fear of starvation and most sicknesses, there exist some not-so-trivial downsides as well. We can connect with people across the globe at the touch of a button, yet we are also more impersonal and isolated in many ways. How often do we text someone rather than call because it’s easier and faster? Do you know all of your Facebook friends? We meet so many people on a daily basis that we have few opportunities to interact on a deeper level with each person. Many people find themselves developing a façade, an outer shell that presents a certain image while protecting the core of who we are from external judgement. The point is, we often become disconnected from others and—more importantly—from ourselves. We tend to lose that honesty that’s so important to trusting others and grounding ourselves in reality, and without empathy and honesty, our deep sense of connection to others suffers.
So I believe empathy is our path to leading a more fulfilling life. We were programmed to be social creatures. Indeed we need companionship to be mentally and spiritually healthy. More than that, we all seek that ultimate relationship, that form of connection so strong it’s what makes life worth living: we all seek love. Because that is who we are. Honesty, with others and ourselves, connects us to reality and allows us to communicate with each other. Open communication leads to empathy. Empathy leads to understanding, and understanding others and being understood, deeply and fully, leads us to the connection we so crave.
And that’s what this blog will be about. First, I plan on writing about the three categories (Honesty, Empathy, and Connection) in a general sense, and then I will post about more specific topics that I think are relevant or interesting. If you have constructive criticism or would like me to write about a certain subject, please comment below; I would love to read it. And lastly, thank you for reading this far! I hope this enriches your life =]